What do children really want from their parents? Love and lots of it!! And our time and attention.
So simple but sometimes with our busy fast-paced lifestyles it can be so difficult.
As parents we have to keep our communication lines open with our children and be there for them and listen to them. Being there for our precious babies and spending quality time with our children does not mean giving them an electronic device while sitting with our eyes glued to one as well.
Being there for our children is connecting with them on many levels. Asking questions, sharing experiences using our senses, laughing with them, hugging them, giving them advice, listening to their needs and wants, making eye contact with them, holding their hands, giving them a shoulder to cry on, praying with them, giving them hope, and instilling confidence in them.
So the next time you are with your munchkins, put that silly phone away and truly concentrate all your attention on your precious one(s) and live in the moment with them and experience life how they experience it – truly seeing things from their point of view. By giving your children 110% they will know you care and give back in ways you never imagined. Start early and keep it going!
When I take my children to any of their activities I put my phone away because it is my time for my children – work will always be there. I do not want to be staring at my phone when my children score a basket or make a pass. Because I know they will look my way to see if I saw their accomplishment. If they see that I was not even interested in what they were doing then how many more times are they going to look my way for that thumbs up, or smile. Pretty soon they will not care whether I am there and may not even try to improve knowing the most important person in their life does not even care so then why bother.
At my children’s ice skating lessons my son said to me, “Mom why are you not on your phone, look all the other parents are on their phones?” And I replied, I want to watch you and your sister and that is the most important thing for me. Then I noticed as the lessons progressed the other children would also look at me for confirmation since I was almost the only parent that was actually paying any attention to anything the children were doing. After this I noticed at my children’s swimming and basketball sessions pretty much a similar scene unfolded.
Parents just watch your children – it means the world to them! They just want our time and attention 🙂